DARYL PHILLIPS    MARRIAGE COACH

The coach’s job is getting the client to do what they don’t want to do  –   so they can have the kind of marriage they’ve always wanted.

WHAT IS COACHING
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You, the client, will do most of the work; not the coach.  Sometimes clients think that the coach has all of the answers, can tell them exactly what to do, or should make the client do things.  That is not the function of the coach.


 Your coach’s job is to share observations and give feedback; not solve your problems.  You are responsible for finding solutions to your problems.  Your coach can share wisdom, action steps, counsel and advice, but cannot ‘do it’ for you.


Your coach’s job is to ask for more than you can reasonably do.  They will consistently ask you for more in an effort to keep you thinking of possibilities.  You can always accept, decline or negotiate.

Your coach is your success partner, not your higher authority or taskmaster.  Your coach will encourage you to take actions, however, the best coaching occurs when you take the initiative.


Your coach works with you as a whole person, not just on the situation or goals.  Your coach will need to talk with you about who you are, where you come from, where you are at the present time, how you think, assumptions you’ve made, what motivates you, etc., in order to assist you solve problems and set goals.


The value of coaching isn’t based on how much time is spent in coaching.  Great coaching can occur in 60 seconds—when the right thing is said in the right way, the client leaps forward.

Your original goals may change or be abandoned.  Sometimes we really don’t know what we want.  It’s better to go with the flow and let your real goals emerge during the coaching process rather than knowing them all in advance.


Sometimes your coach will need to work on strengthening you, instead of encouraging you to accomplish something.  Goals are reached more quickly and easily when you have a strong personal foundation.  Personal growth takes time, but lasts a lifetime.


The coaching session isn’t the most important part of the coaching process.  Having great sessions between a coach and the client is important, however, it’s not the “quality” of the session, but it’s how well the client integrates and uses what was covered between sessions.

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AS YOUR COACH I WILL SUPPORT YOU BY:


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Using a client-centered focus

Actively listening

Asking thought provoking questions

Helping you explore options

Getting you to prioritize actions

Asking about progress being made

Encouraging accountability

Being there at each step in the process

Maintaining confidentiality

Providing optional assessments

Meeting in person, by phone, or by Skype

MARRIAGE FACTS

Here are some interesting facts regarding marriage in the 21st century

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PERCENTAGE OF MARRIAGES THAT END IN DIVORCE
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AVERAGE AGE OF MALES ENTERING INTO MARRIAGE FOR THE FIRST TIME
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MEAN DURATION OF MARRIAGE IN YEARS BEFORE DIVORCE
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AVERAGE AGE OF WOMEN ENTERing INTO MARRIAGE FOR THE FIRST TIME
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AVERAGE COST OF UNCONTESTED DIVORCE
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AVERAGE COST OF CONTESTED DIVORCE
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COUPLES WHO COHABIT HAVE A 46% GREATER RISK OF DIVORCE THAN COUPLES WHO DO NOT LIVE TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE
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% OF CHILDREN THAT DIRECTLY EXPERIENCE PARENTAL DIVORCE BY THE AGE OF 12
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PERCENTAGE OF 2nd MARRIAGES END IN DIVORCE

COACHING OPTIONS

After your initial consultation, you can decide which option is best suited for you.

BASIC COACHING

This option is suited for the individual who is considering marriage coaching for the first time. You might be wondering how you might strengthen or invest in your marriage and if this coaching process really does work! You would start with the first session, establish some objectives and goals, spend some time inbetween sessions implementing and returning for a follow up session to discuss the results, ask more questions and possibly set new goals.

2 sessions per month

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INTERMEDIATE COACHING

This option is great for the individual who has begun to realize some frustration within the marriage, has a basic understanding of the conflict, but is unsure of how to proceed to address the issue with their spouse. This option builds on the previous one by adding more time to spend on implementing strategies and achieving goals with the benefit of more debriefing sessions to see how things are going and to establish the possibility of altering goals or moving in a new direction.

3 sessions per month
4 email messages per month

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INTENSE COACHING

This option works best for the individual who needs a little more time to first strengthen themselves before setting out to address issues within their marriage. The marriage relationship is only as strong as the weakest member (at any given moment). Therefore, you might need some time discovering things about yourself that might not be inhibiting the health of your marriage.

4 sessions per month
unlimited email messages

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CUSTOM COACHING

Not everyone fits into neatly packaged coaching options and most will choose one of the previous coaching options and building on top of that, along with a few minor alterations here and there. The reality is that we are all different and function differently. Some of you might desire more inbetween session contact and support, while others might need fewer sessions with greater time required in between.

Let’s design something perfectly suited to you.

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COACH’S BACKGROUND

I have a very strong desire to see couples safely and successfully navigate the often times perilous waters of marriage.

HOW REALISTIC ARE YOUR EXPECTATIONS?

Relationships are not always easy and effortless.  They have their struggles now and then.  The person you once thought you knew so well (at times) will confuse, frustrate and dissappoint you.  Over the years of marriage, both husband and wife continue to grow and experience life on an individual basis.  Sometimes these changes are not fully or easily communicated and create an ever increasing distance between the once inseparable and cohesive team of husband and wife.  No one, when beginning a relationship, starts out with the intention to destroy it.  In fact we are usually optimistic and so full of good intention and grace that we cannot concieve of the relationship ever ending.  However, when relationships are not nurtured, they eventually die.

HAVE YOU CONSIDERED?

I have seen (and personally experienced) far too many couples give up on their relationship far too easily and quickly.  While in the midst of conflict, many thoughts and emotions lead us to make unhealthy and unwise decisions.  Most of us feel like taking the easy way out.  I understand – who enjoys fighting with the one who is supposed to love you the most?   I believe that couples have many more options than the quick, but painful, means of quitting on a relationship that for so many years was rewarding and could continue to be for many more years to come.

Life experience and personality type have started me on this journey of coaching.  I have been trained and certified through the Institute for Life Coach Training (ILCT) in Hudson, Ohio.  I am currently furthering my studies through ILCT and working to obtain my Relationship Coaching Specialist certification.

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RELATIONSHIP THOUGHTS

 

A few random thoughts from some people who make it their ambition to understand how marriage work best.

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CONTACT TO SET UP INTRODUCTORY SESSION

CONTACT INFORMATION

289-723-0392
www.darylphillips.ca
103 Meredith Drive, St. Catharines, Ontario   L2M 6C5

APPOINTMENT HOURS

Appointments are scheduled on a mutually agreeable time and date.

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